Published by Hay House
Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness by Marsha Lucas
On the way to finding and creating vibrant, successful relationships, too many of us end up tangled in the same old patterns, tripped up by relationship habits that get in our way whether we “know better” or not. In Rewire Your Brain for Love, neuropsychologist and psychotherapist Marsha Lucas, PhD, helps you untangle those relationship snarls, bringing together the latest neuroscience with a practice consistently heralded by top academic institutions for its effectiveness in changing the brain: the practice of mindfulness meditation. Dr. Lucas’s clear, unintimidating, often laugh-out-loud style invites you to explore how the brain functions in relationships, helping you understand how your current relationship wiring developed and showing you how you can rewire your relationship brain through mindfulness meditation.
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I cannot describe how interesting I found it, it is a great book. I was very pleasantly surprised by what I learned. The style of writing is witty and anecdotal, but is also full of neurological information and explanations of how our brain works and why we react the way we do in different situations, and why some of us, myself included, tend to make the same ‘mistakes’ over and over in relating to other people .
There are case stories and examples of therapy and one of the methods of dealing with emotional stress given, is to name or label the feelings that you have in order to deal with them. This sounds over simplistic and Ms. Lucas puts it much better, but this really works and helps the connections between the left and right parts of the brain.
I was impressed at the research carried out in the writing of this book and some of the findings were new to me, like the physical changes which take place in the brain in people who meditate. My particular habit of self protectiveness was well explained. All the explanations and brain theories are in simple and straightforward language, and the suggested skills to deal with problem areas make a lot of sense. There are clear instructions for starting and continuing meditation.
There is a lovely sentence which has been highlighted in the book several times; ‘negative emotion is one which persists beyond the time it is useful’, this must be a truism for our modern age. I now feel confident that past rewiring of our brains can be overcome and changed for the better.
This book may need a second reading to get the most out of it.